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Experience of a moment gives us knowledge.

Our knowledge is captured and stored in our memory systems. Our memory system is then called upon by thought.
But thought is no more real an experience than a person is upon the surface of a television screen.

It is an approximation of the real thing.
Our thoughts are a two dimensional representation of a three dimensional experience.

Our society glorifies the two dimensional experience.

It permeates through every conventional form of our entertainment…

Recorded music, film, art, computer games, televised sports…the list goes on and on.

With every year that goes by, our experience migrates further into passivity. Our minds begin to binge and we ignore our bodies call for action.

And so the three dimensional experience becomes the experience of two dimensions. Our awareness of three dimensions begins to diminish.
We learn to live in a two dimensional world. A world with order, a world without chaos.

A New world order.

We take our orders, we remove ourselves from responsibility.

We stop having sexual relationships.

We learn to reward ourselves with instant gratification.

Only, our bodies are talking to us. We can feel it deep in our core, but we do not understand its message.

To begin with, we ignore the feelings. Ignorance is bliss, so they say.

And yet, the feelings become more powerful.

We begin to pray. The two dimensional experience begins to crumble in front of our eyes.

We cry out when nobody will come to our aid.

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“Won’t somebody tell me what is going on?!”  The feelings become more powerful still.

We blame each other for our misfortune.

“You did this to me. This is your fault!”  The feelings become more powerful still.

We develop anger. Our anger twists our logic, and we begin to buckle under so many thoughts. The two dimensional experience starts to skew. Our thoughts whirr to find the source of the pain.

And still our bodies scream for action.

We stay passive. “I can’t do that.”  Still remaining in the remnants of a two dimensional world.

And still our bodies scream for action.

Then,

We snap.

We become active.

We breath destruction in everything we do.

We vow to tear down everything that we envy.

We want the trapped energy out.

“I’m gonna fucking kill you!” 

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We expell our energy. But something has changed…. We realise that we did this to ourselves.

We see the world in three dimensions. We understand that our bodies tells us what we need. And instead of just listening to it.

We learn to act it.

To BE it. 

And then we find ourselves. And we understand love. And we wonder how this ever happened.

Fear exists because of thought.

The three dimensional experience that we have forgotten has become fear.

We have forgotten who we are. We have become lost and must now find our way. And so we listen to what others say. In the hope that they will fix us. but, nobody can help us to find anything.

There is nothing to find.

We simply have to see beyond our rigid two dimensional world. We have to experience our fear of the unknown. We have to see the chaos of our existence. Only then are we self-actualised.

There is no time to waste.

We are here now.

In this very moment we can choose our experience.

We can stand up this very second,

We can do exactly what our body wants.

We need not simply listen to it anymore.

Our bodies are screaming at us to act.

ACTION! 

The primary reason men don’t get what they want, is that they don’t know what they want.

That is the real issue, but so many guys aren’t ready for that or have forgotten it. So, as I way of looking at it from another perspective I have written this post. I’m not here to say that this is the way that people are. It is merely an invitation for you to be entertained by myself, and maybe discuss what I’m about to say.

Anyway…

The community is built upon the concept of gaming. I’ve spent alot of time over the last 2 years in bars and doing day game and what not. I never really actually got laid from the process. Looking back now, having left the community at large I think I realise why.

I’m a relationship guy.

I see a very discernible difference in the views of men. And that is that some enjoy casual sex and some don’t.

It is often argued in the community that this view is an illusion and that all men are to strive to become pickup artists. This view simply isn’t true. I got quite angry about this before I signed off from the community. I was angry because of all the guys that I see pottering about in bars and streets, with their tails dangling between their legs. I saw men that were out doing something that was not natural to them. At the time I didn’t really have a reason why I felt the way I did, but on reflection it makes a good deal more sense to me. I must point out that this isn’t all guys, merely a select few.

You see, if a man doesn’t know what he wants, then the community offers something really quite enticing - direction.

This however, is the trap that I have been raving about for so long, but its only a trap to a certain kind of man.

That man is the relationship guy.

The relationship guy is probably not going to meet the right women for him whilst learning pickup. The opposite is actually true. The relationship guy has a different set of values from the typical pickup artist. He prefers long term gratification over the instant kind.

These values can be the cause of very well known but often misunderstood conflict:

He is more likely to get approach anxiety.
He is more likely to get stuck in his head.

These are potentially symptoms of a person conforming to something that is not actually the best cause of action for them. If you have been out on the field for a substantial amount of time and you are still suffering from these symptoms, then something deeper is at work. This could be your problem.

Members of the community appear to hold the opinion that having a relationship with a women is something that you eventually aspire to, i.e.

after

you have got good at pickup.

This is a myth.

Deep down I have always been the man that wanted the relationship. It has simply taken me time to discover that. I wanted relationships before entering the community. As a member of the community, I found myself building relationships and then dismantling them when I realised they didn’t meet my ‘pickup targets’.

Pickup is useful, as long as we aware of why we are doing it. I actually got trapped into the communities way of thinking, and believed that I wanted to be some crazy playboy. This works out both ways too. Perhaps you are in a relationship when really you shouldn’t be, because you are a pickup guy and not a relationship guy.

Your status and life outlook is constantly changing. It is important to be aware of that fact.

So what is the best approach for the overlooked relationship guy?

Obviously, the relationship guy has to be confident enough to be approaching women, but that doesn’t mean he should be doing it with the end aim of racking up notches on his bed post. For the relationship guy, striving towards this goal offers at best frustration, and at worst a serious feeling of loneliness.

The correct approach is to readdress what he really wants.

I’ll say it again.

The primary reason men don’t get what they want, is that they don’t know what they want.

For me personally, I discovered that I actually enjoy spending time with women far more than I do the instant sex. Everybody says that we should rise above ourselves and learn to stop craving sex so much. I think this is food for thought. Recently, I found myself telling my wing that I genuinely didn’t care
if I didn’t have sex for the next five years.

Recently, I decided to readdress and realised what this was all about. This led to me changing my approach to women. I started to tell women that I wanted a relationship. Nowhere in pickup does it say to do this. Nowhere.

I have been running this approach for a month or so. It led me to meeting a girl and we are now seeing each other.

So if you are reading this I would like you to ask if perhaps you are that relationship guy.

If you are and you are out gaming. Then perhaps its time to change your direction slightly.