Comments on: PUA or relationship artist. Which are you? http://unwindmymind.com/goals/pua-or-relationship-artist-which-are-you/ Exploring and unbinding the self Tue, 18 Nov 2008 15:19:29 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: hyperreal http://unwindmymind.com/goals/pua-or-relationship-artist-which-are-you/#comment-33 hyperreal Mon, 12 May 2008 07:16:01 +0000 http://unwindmymind.com/goals/pua-or-relationship-artist-which-are-you/#comment-33 You pretty much it on the head. The reason why guys get approach anxiety and get stuck in their heads while doing Pick-Up is because they have their values mixed up. They get a lot of community noise telling them that they should be playboys that have alotta sex when in fact, they are guys who just want to kick it with girls and spend time with them and not necessarily have sex with them. Although I disagree with you on some points. You typed "Perhaps you are in a relationship when really you shouldn’t be, because you are a pickup guy and not a relationship guy." This suggests, from what I read, that guys do not get to choose what their values are. This is totally wrong. For something as reality-shattering as Pick-Up (this is what the gurus are always chirpin about), then it is necessary for the individual to DECIDE his values. That means, either to be a Playboy, or to be a monogamous guy that wants to be loyal to a woman forever. Nobody, and this includes society, decides what our values are. It is us that decide our values. And stepping into the doors of Pick-Up, we have essentiall determined what our values are. Some of us are existentially dumb to know what values we've determined for ourselves, but there are those, the high-thinking, conscious INDIVIDUALS that decide what values he must live for, whether for weal or for woe, for good or for evil. You pretty much it on the head. The reason why guys get approach anxiety and get stuck in their heads while doing Pick-Up is because they have their values mixed up. They get a lot of community noise telling them that they should be playboys that have alotta sex when in fact, they are guys who just want to kick it with girls and spend time with them and not necessarily have sex with them. Although I disagree with you on some points.

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“Perhaps you are in a relationship when really you shouldn’t be, because you are a pickup guy and not a relationship guy.”

This suggests, from what I read, that guys do not get to choose what their values are. This is totally wrong. For something as reality-shattering as Pick-Up (this is what the gurus are always chirpin about), then it is necessary for the individual to DECIDE his values. That means, either to be a Playboy, or to be a monogamous guy that wants to be loyal to a woman forever. Nobody, and this includes society, decides what our values are. It is us that decide our values. And stepping into the doors of Pick-Up, we have essentiall determined what our values are. Some of us are existentially dumb to know what values we’ve determined for ourselves, but there are those, the high-thinking, conscious INDIVIDUALS that decide what values he must live for, whether for weal or for woe, for good or for evil.

]]> By: FloodKicker http://unwindmymind.com/goals/pua-or-relationship-artist-which-are-you/#comment-30 FloodKicker Fri, 11 Apr 2008 06:44:01 +0000 http://unwindmymind.com/goals/pua-or-relationship-artist-which-are-you/#comment-30 Your blog is very informative, I have learned so much from it. It is like daily newspaper :). Added to fav’s. Your blog is very informative, I have learned so much from it. It is like daily newspaper :). Added to fav’s.

]]> By: Pirate_uk http://unwindmymind.com/goals/pua-or-relationship-artist-which-are-you/#comment-25 Pirate_uk Sun, 23 Mar 2008 10:44:39 +0000 http://unwindmymind.com/goals/pua-or-relationship-artist-which-are-you/#comment-25 I find myself in agreement with you here as I have come to a similar realisation (see my post ‘Friday 14th March - Leaving Do’). I think the experience of cold approaches is building a confidence that is attractive in and of itself. Perhaps, simply, by facing that fear. Btw... I am currently having my brain fried by The Blueprint ;-D I find myself in agreement with you here as I have come to a similar realisation (see my post ‘Friday 14th March - Leaving Do’).

I think the experience of cold approaches is building a confidence that is attractive in and of itself. Perhaps, simply, by facing that fear.

Btw… I am currently having my brain fried by The Blueprint ;-D

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